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For all time, women cry, unable to understand why her boyfriend acts imprudent cause everyone around them embarrassment. And even, in several cases, some women truly weren’t conscious of the boyfriend’s bad manners. But, in other cases women recognize well in advance they just expected that he would stop doing that.

The majority women are not brainless and naive for the selections in men they make. Just a number of them in fact had no thought their boyfriend meant bad news for them. Other person may ask “How could she get herself caught up with him anyway?” The reasons for some women to stay with a man are because of love, status, money and/or power. While others may have stayed because they didn’t want to leave her child/children left “unfathered”. Unfortunately, still many women feel they can change the situation. Shape a different man. Later, they realize, these efforts just never work for some men. Sometimes, she will have to get up and stand up. Take her left self-respect. Convince herself, this relationship must stop, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW !!!

These advices might not suitable for women who haven’t yet had a baby with the “bad man.” Because, for a “mother” woman, the consideration must be deeper. Much deeper.

The Foreman
In his eyes, no matter what, you can never do anything right. He is often critical. Everything just gone wrong under his surveillance. At first, you justified his negative personality with after apology. But excuses time is over; you have a right to enlighten yourself. Tell him about how you feel about him. You can just tell yourself that things will get better. He could be asking a time that he is making an effort to change. Again, you can wait, but time is ticking.

Liar-Liar
At first, you may catch him in a few white lies. Just because you had found that his excuses seemed like persuasive; then you let him get away with them. As time goes by, the dishonest has greater than before and the excuses have become least if not at you’re. Your choice of reactions may: take some approach to. In this way, you just stop taking his lying lightly. You let him know that this kind of trait will not accept any longer.
But, what if he chooses to continue lying? In that case, you will have to say that you must end the relationship for good.
Once you have made a choice that you are giving up and leaving, some efforts must be taken, depend on your relationship condition. You may provide excuse not be contacted by him. There are several ways: change your home and cell phone number, spam and block his email address, stay away from your and his friends about your relationship situation. Sometimes, a man is a man. When you think that he will get better when you go back to him after you left, his two-faced behavior is still incurable.

The Drunk/ Drug Addict
The simplest question, is he fun, angry, or depressed while he was with you?
How many times have you seen him, most accidentally, using drugs or drunk? Does his behavior related with your daily relationship problems. OK. You’re still having a chance afterward. You can consider getting counseling from experts. You can have supports from family and friends who have all been influenced by his negative habits. But, if he constantly rejects assistant, then for your own sense and security, leave him alone. Do you want to show up in TV or papers for being a victim of physical abuser?

Playboy
This kind of man is always passionate to make contact with other woman, beside his official mate. Incredibly, he will make use of cell phone, email, friends and acquaintances network in order to find other sexual target. He is very protective of his cell phone and his computer; if you tried to check either it maybe password protected. His friend may also covert his “secret mission”. But, luckily, most of men are stupid enough to leave a trail of evidence. It could be a business card in his pocket, restaurant receipts, hotel charges, cologne or jewelry gifts, read and sent email that sits in his account that he forgot to delete. It could be anything. But it’s not unique at all. There is always a general pattern. The only thing we should notice is the repetition of the pattern. His repetitive pattern could be based on particular time and situation. It’s your sense that can evaluate this recurrence pattern. So, just don’t blind, deaf, or worst, SENSELESS.

The Kleptomaniac
Maybe it’s too late to realize. Better late than never. He was just around when things go missing. Initially, you didn’t guess him as a suspect. You may think those items had just been misplaced. When you ask him, he could be blaming someone else for taking them. So far, you’re living in denial. You decline your own feeling that he was the one who made off with your dad’s tools, took your favorite CD, helped himself to some cash sitting around, and other important items. Well, it is time to come up with a plan, set him up. But, he is not stupid either. The kind of plan you come up with can’t be easily figured out by him. You can believe in him anymore. The longer you stay with him, the more stuff will go missing.

Pic is "The Birth of Galatea", by Raphael