What’s Wrong with Keeping Old Stuff from Past Relationships?

Most people probably held onto something that represents moment in time together with somebody they loved for even when the relationship was ended.

Keeping those stuff could have provided as a reminder of the relationship lost. If you do this, you could just find a way to punish yourself or perhaps it was with the expectation that you would reclaim your relationship and renew your love. Sometimes, we just don’t know about letting go.

Anything that your past mate/spouse gave to you could represent the moments you shared together with the beloved one. All presents and gifts are potential to set you up for holding on. Even, without our knowledge. These can include old love letters or cards they gave to you, pictures, movie ticket stubs from a movie you saw together, or ridiculous stuff that you thought you and your last love would be the only one to understand.

Sometimes, you’re living in denial, but just don’t realize yet. You always make a justification for your action. Even when those stuff taking up space in your home and worse, in your life. Even after knowing there was no hope of the two of you ever getting back together. Well, at least you may have simply convinced yourself that you're just a hopeless romantic as to why you have held onto such things.

If you are among that kind of person who is still holding onto anything from a past relationship, it is important to make an inventory list. Use your spreadsheet software if you need to. Write down how many of those “romantic” stuffs you still have. And for the most important, from how many past relationships? Because it will show you, is it the person or the romantic sense that matters?

After you have a clear picture of YOU, then you can realize how you might be holding onto your past. If you're holding onto the past romantic session this manner, you're almost certainly doing it in other ways as well.

These stuffs actually maintain a connection to those lost people for as long as you are willing to hold onto them. But, you may already know that, all you need is someone told you. Eager enough to break the wall that surrounds you and shout at you, loud and clear, you’re living in denial. For you to know, those stuffs are like physical representations of the connection that still present between you and them.

Why is it important to break our connection with our past?

It’s easy. As long as you still have these “weird” relations to someone from your past, whether you know it or not, you can never truly commit to a future relationship. A part of you is still wrapped up in your past with people you're no longer even with. You’re incapable to be loved since you are not FREE. At all...

Pic is "Young Woman Receives Gifts from Venus and the Three Graces", by Botticelli